Wednesday, December 05, 2012

Long, tearful conversation

Had a long, tearful conversation with Geoff last night about feeling terrible and being stressed, and after writing down a lot of the things I'm worried about or that are stressing me, it seems like almost all of them could be ameliorated by:

More sleep
A cleaning service
Occasional outside activities for me
Greater housework efficiency

So in the interests of me not dying, I'm going to look into a basic cleaning service and think about the end of cosleeping and night nursing.


Anonymous said...

We have had a cleaning crew coming every two weeks for years, and I swear it's saved our marriage. No more arguing about whose turn it is to vacuum or clean the bathroom. No more compromising about whose level of cleanliness to live up to. No more spending weekends cleaning. It is worth every cent.


lissla lissar said...

It sounds great, and I'm hopeful, but we don't have very much money. I guess if it means more mac'n'cheese and less exhaustion, so be it. The problem is HOW MUCH mess four children can make. Every day it looks like the house threw up on itself. I assume if we didn't homeschool and were out more it would be less severe...

so many things to love... said...

This reminds me of something I thought of after having Samuel. I have many things I want to do with my time, and lots of neat ideas, but I only have 24 hours a day. I need to pick the Most Important Things. And usually those things are the headwaters (the things from which all other things flow). For me, that's church every Sunday with the children put in the supervised nursery, etc. I have also used a cleaning lady to help me before a big company visit, for example. She charged $20 an hour, and got more done in an hour than I could do in a day, if that helps. $20 a week isn't bad.

lissla lissar said...

One of the few things I miss about being Anglican is the Sunday school. I've never found a Catholic church with a supervised nursery. Many of them don't even have cry rooms. It makes taking small children to Mass very like wrestling a group of possessed Tasmanian devils on speed.

When we had Nancy, our Trinidadian volunteer, I would watch with mouth open as she cleaned and tidied at warp speed while also entertaining and watching all the children. I was like magic. I really miss her.

I think what I really need (and I like your image of the headwaters) is some time to do things I enjoy every day- baking, crafting, reading. If I can manage that everything else seems bearable.